Alone in a New City – How to Settle Quickly

Chicago, shoreline

Having to make a long-distance move to a new city is hard but having to do that all by yourself is even harder. You may be overcome by a wide range of feelings like solitude, melancholy and sadness and that would be quite normal. After all, this is a huge change that will push you out of your comfort zone and throw you into an unfamiliar place away from everyone you love and know. That is quite scary but this does not mean that you will always feel that way. Getting used to your new surroundings will take some time. However, you can speed up this process by:

  • Spending more time outside
  • Meeting new people
  • Viewing challenges as opportunities

Seek for companionship

Humans are social animals and that is why they need companionship. Don’t fight this urge of yours because you will only end up feeling lonelier that you already do. Instead, make friends with the people around you, like your neighbors or your roommates if you have any. You can also join a club or a go to classes, workshops and etc. That is a great way to meet people who have interests similar to yours. Another thing you should remember is that your family and friends back home are just one call away. Stay in touch with them and always find the time for a quick call home even when you are too busy.

Don’t lock yourself inside

Chicago, shorelineOne of the greatest mistakes you can make when you have just moved into a new city by yourself is to spend all of your free time in your room.  Go outside whether you can. For example, you can read a book in the park, take a walk around the city center, explore museums and etc. And don’t use bad weather as an excuse to stay locked inside of your apartment. Go to a local library or a café, for instance. The more time you spend out and about the faster you will get accustomed to your new surroundings and to the city’s atmosphere.

Don’t compare your new life to your old life

There is no point in comparing the city to which you have just relocated to your hometown, for example. These are two different places and that will always be the case. What you should do instead is to make a list of all the things you like about your new surroundings, like a better nightlife scene or faster public transport. That will help you to better appreciate your new life.

Create a routine

Having a daily routine can greatly speed up your settling in process. While getting out of your comfort zone by talking to strangers and going to places to which you normally wouldn’t, can help you explore your new place, having a routine will allow you to fit comfortably into it. Drinking your morning coffee in the same café every day can make you feel more relaxed and cozy.

Whatever you do, embrace every challenge because it will help you become a more independent and responsible person.